Tips to Spice up your Sex Life!

No matter how in love you are, and no matter how attracted you are to your partner, sometimes it’s hard to get excited about sex.  Especially if you have sex frequently, it can eventually get redundant and almost boring; having the same kind of sex over and over again.   That’s not to say that there aren’t certain parts of sex that end up being the same; the penis gets inserted into a vagina or anus, however there are small things you can do to spice things up, to make that sex a little bit different.

CHANGE THE LOCATION

It may sound simple, but as my boyfriend and I learned last week, changing up the location of your sex can add a lot of spontaneity, as well as excitement and the feel of “something special.”   And it doesn’t have to be anything fancy either.  For us, we tried making love on our couch.  We discovered that the height and angles just weren’t right for our heights and body sizes, so we ended up with me laying on across the dining table!  Though it may be hard to hold your legs up, just put your feet up on the backs of chairs.

There are many other places you can explore for sex, such as on the stairs, on a chair, even on your patio/balcony if you have enough privacy.  By taking just a couple seconds to say “No, don’t go to the bed!  Let’s try the couch!” you could find a place that works excellent for sex.  And even if you don’t, it’s a fun memory that you now have with your lover.

CHANGE THE POSITION

Similar to changing the location, changing the positions you’re having sex in can really increase your pleasure and stave off too much repetition in your sex life.  The thing about changing positions is that it does not have to be fancy or complicated.  Especially for many women, simply moving one leg can really change the sensations received.

There are many simple ways to change up the most common sexual positions.  Sometimes it’s just one little change that’s needed to spice things up a bit, make it feel different/better and make it, quite simply, not the same.

- When in doggy style, simply changing whether or not her arms are bent or straight can make a huge difference.  Also, putting a pillow or two under her tummy can also help, so it’s not quite as much stress on her body which will help her be able to relax and focus on receiving pleasure, rather than keeping position.

- With her laying on her back, throwing one leg over another, so laying on her side but with her back flat on the bed can be very pleasurable as well; a subtle change that can spice things up a bit.  It feels like doggy style, just not as intense for her.

- In cowgirl position, if she flips around so she’s facing his feet, it’ll change it up a little bit, and also giver her the sensation of control just like dodgy style can give him.

USE ACCESSORIES

Sometimes it’s fun to add in a little something, a toy or accessory that can bring the sex from basic to exciting. Thing is, you don’t always need an expensive vibrator in order to do this.  Now don’t get me wrong!  Certainly there are things a dildo can do that other things cannot do.  However, sometimes it’s fun to add something in that doesn’t cost a lot of money or batteries.  Plus, it’s fun to try something that’s different and perhaps doesn’t require being inserted into a bodily orifice.

- Without getting sugar in a vagina, try licking chocolate syrup, whipped cream and other fun foods off of each other.  You can even eat regular foods off of each other!  Try putting raspberries on nipples, a strawberry sitting in a navel; you can even make a game out of it; set things on each other and have “prizes” or “punishments” if something falls off.

- Ice cubes can be incredibly stimulating as they’re drawn over nipples, labia, testicles and other body parts.

- Use scarves and neck ties to blindfold or even tie up your lover’s hands.  The lack of moment and/or vision will increase his/her other senses and make their skin much more sensitive.

- Costumes and sexy lingerie are also something that can really make sex time fun.  Even if it’s just a little role play or fun dressing someone or undressing them, using clothing can really add some spice, especially if you don’t all of the clothing off!

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What sorts of things do you like to do to add a little spice in your sex play?

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