Difficulty getting or maintaining an erection is a common problem among men of all ages. Whether the problem stems from a medical condition – such as diabetes, surgery, or the side-effects of some medications, or from psychological issues, or from a combination of unhealthy lifestyle and stress, many men will at some point find it hard to get or keep an erection.
Impotence can be very distressing for those who suffer from it. It can cause problems in relationships and the resulting stress can make the original problem worse. ‘Performance anxiety’ is a sure-fire passion killer, and some men can find themselves trapped in a cycle of worry and frustration.
One solution that may help men with erectile difficulties maintain a healthy sex life is using sex aids. Introducing dildos or a strap-on in the bedroom can help in several ways.
To begin with, a man can be sure that he can please his partner with a dildo. It may take some practice, but there’s no danger of a dildo going soft, however long it takes to figure out! This can relieve some of the frustrations and pressure in sex, giving the man (and his penis) a chance to break out of the cycle of worry and anxiety.
Secondly, particularly if used with a harness as a strap on, using a dildo can be a very pleasurable experience for a man. There is such a wide variety of sex aids available, that most men will find something that turns them on – whether that’s a hollow dildo, such as the Size Queenz Hollow Strap On or the The Perfect Marital Aid Prosthetic Penis Strap-on. There are also vibrating hollow strap-ons, stimulating both partners at the same time.
Harnesses can be bought with dildo attached, or seperately so that partners can choose exactly what size and shape of sex toy they want to use. Some have extra attachments – such as anal stimulators or a ‘double dildo’, such as the Ultra Harness 2000 with anal plug. Different people will want different stimulation – these days dildos are much more than just dick substitutes!
There’s just a few things to remember when shopping for sex toys: If a dildo is to be used for anal play, choose one with a flared base to avoid ‘losing’ the dildo inside your partner. Check the material – some people are allergic to latex – and remember to use plenty of a water-based lubricant like Astroglide or Probe lube for whatever you’re doing. Most harnesses are adjustable to fit different sizes (– some dildos are even expandable too! Like the Strap-on with Expandable Dong).
Most important to remember is that dildos and strap ons are there for fun and pleasure. Experimentation and play could be just the thing to help make sex enjoyable again – with or without an erection.
