All Day Long Foreplay

Frequently it seems like foreplay is nothing more than a little kissing, or ass grabbing, or some clit-rubbing.  Of course there’s always the “I need a blowjob” group, but as those situations frequently involve orgasm and the end of the sex play, I’m excluding those.  Also, there’s the prevailing idea that foreplay can only be done in private, when you and your lover are physically together.  Now, this certainly is true, but only for certain foreplay acts.

Thing is, foreplay can last a whole day, when you and your partner are apart.  While it’s certainly not something to do every day, it’s something you can do when you feel like it.  That special text or email or letter left in a briefcase can really mean a lot to someone.

There are many ways to add foreplay into your day to make it something extra special.  Even if you don’t end up having sex, adding that intimacy into your day can release tension and create an excitement that our days don’t typically have any more.

Sexting

Something that’s really gained notoriety in the last couple years, being able to send your lover a naughty mid-day message has a lot of merit.  with cell phones you can send “I’m thinking of you” messages, along with naughty photos if you so choose.  This can remind not only your partner, but you yourself, of what you have waiting for you at home, and that you are still physically attracted to each other.

The little messages and such can also really keep a person sexually awake throughout the day.  The anticipation of what’s to come and crackling sexual energy that surrounds you all day can lead to an explosive evening for both you and your partner.

Examples can be: “I’m not wearing panties and I’m thinking of you.”  “When you get home go straight to the bedroom, I have a surprise for you.”  “I loved last night, let’s do that position again tonight.”  Or they can be even more raunchy and specific.

Surprises

Things like this are great for many things.  Starting a day’s worth of foreplay for an erotic evening, simply giving a gift or even suggesting trying a new sex act.  By leaving a surprise such as an instructional, adult dvd or a new sex toy on their pillow or even in their briefcase you’re telling them that you are still attracted to them, still want them and that you are invested in your relationship, wanting your sex life to be exciting and wanting to try new things.

Hidden Toys

More for when you’re together but in public, things such as remote control vibrators and butt plugs are sexy little secrets between you and your lover.  Especially if you’re using a remote control vibrator and give the remote to your partner, the knowledge that s/he is in control of the toy that’s inside you is incredible erotic.

For the person wearing the toy you have the sensations it’s giving you as foreplay and for your partner, they get to watch you, knowing that you’re receiving those sensations while you’re at the grocery store, a movie, a party or wherever you’re at.  For my boyfriend and I, one of our favorite memories was us walking in the mall, while my boyfriend would turn on the remote vibrating egg while I was trying to pay for something.  He enjoyed watching me attempt to hide the shock on my face and then watch me work through the sensations I was getting while trying to give nothing away.

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What sorts of “long distance foreplay” do you enjoy?  Share and give us ideas!!

One Response to “All Day Long Foreplay”

  1. Martha Reeves

    These are very good ideas, for some of us who are new to this sex toys. I’m a African and we Africans, sex toys are taboos to some of us women but mostly to our Africans men. My husband would get piss off if he founds out I’m even thinking about getting one, needless get one. We barely have sex, and I don’t want to mess around so I need a sex toy which I decided to get but I need something he can use. for example something he can put on his penis to enter me. Which is pleasurable to the both of us. I had a vibrator once, he found it out and reported me to our pastor. And I was so ashamed and I trew it away. I need help in choosing the best sex toy for us. He might like it, like u said if he’s in control of it.

    Concern citizen

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